Serious Sunday: Living the Dream.

As part of teaching during Holocaust Memorial Week I would give my learners a drawing of a suitcase. I would then ask them to imagine there had been a knock on the door, their home invaded by uniformed strangers, told they had to leave and given 10 minutes to pack a suitcase.

What would they put in their suitcases? Some answers were practical. Medication, phone, phone charger, change of clothes. Some were poignant. Family photos, a keepsake, a favourite teddy bear. One learner chose a pet cat, a supply of cat food and a bag of cat litter.

How did the learners feel about this exercise? The most common response was that it was so hard to choose.

So close your eyes and turn your back on your room. Imagine a sudden bang, so loud it bursts your ear drums. Open your eyes. Everything you hold dear, the possessions you take pride in, the home you have worked so hard to create all gone. The dream you were living reduced to a pile of rubble.

You are a teacher, a doctor, a bank worker, a healthcare worker. You are anything and everything you worked for and dreamed to be. You are ordinary and you are special. You are the victim of a war you neither asked for or played a part in.

And you are lucky. Lucky that you have enough savings to be able to pay for a passage to a life. Not a better life because you already had a great life. But a life. You know you will not likely work in the same capacity as you have previously done. You know that your children will likely learn to speak and write a new language before you do and that they will likely miss school or college when you need a translator. This is not the life you dreamed of for them. You know that you will likely be exploited as cheap labour and forever be looking over your shoulder should your asylum claim not be granted but you will have a life.

So imagine you have to make a choice. Who will you take with you? Elderly parents or grandparents? Sisters and brothers? Cousins? Children? How will you choose?

Imagine exchanging your life savings for a perilous journey across land and sea.

Imagine clinging on for dear life to your hungry and thirsty little ones whilst the baby in your belly turns cartwheels.

Imagine finally sighting the land you have been heading for; so near yet it may as well be thousand miles beyond your reach as your companions desperately try to bail out the sinking dinghy that holds everything you hold dear in the world.

Imagine your peril and distress is pointed at, filmed, broadcast around the world. You are an educated woman. You know that Article 98 of the UN Convention of the Law of the Sea states that:

Every State shall require the master of a ship flying its flag, in so far as he can do so without serious danger to the ship, the crew or the passengers:

(a) to render assistance to any person found at sea in danger of being lost.
(b) to proceed with all possible speed to the rescue of persons in distress.

You also know that nothing is allowed to get in the way of a good news story and that the same news agency that is profiting from your peril is also stirring up hatred against you in the country you are looking to for asylum.

Imagine waiting your turn to be rescued. Clinging on to your babies, boats circling like sharks around your tiny dinghy, every swell and pull threatening to sweep you overboard or drag you under. News reporters in their boats shouting to you. “Where are you from?” “How did you get here?” Welcome to the dream!

What I did today: Decided its better not to know.

If you ever have a bit of time on your hands type into your search box: “Who put Bella in the Wych Elm?” It is a strange tale of an unsolved mystery as is this post.

We always used to have a fairly laid-back attitude to home security until we were burgled a few years ago. As we were sat in the back room one evening intruders walked in through an unlocked outer door and helped themselves to my handbag and my son’s wallet.

After that a kind of security mania sprung up around our street. We all got alarms upgraded, better door locks, CCTV cameras and started a WhatsApp group so we could be better informed about any suspicious goings-on in our neighbourhood. If only we had just locked the door!

The WhatsApp group is great and has been especially supportive during lockdown. Neighbours have put boxes of kiddies toys at the end of their drives for anyone to help themselves and someone has been making and selling face masks and donating the money to charity. Lost and found pets notices get posted on there with the latest one being Marley the Jack Russell.

Marley safely back home.

There is always something going on. At the minute everyone is collecting bottle caps so my neighbour can create a bar top out of them.

It’s going to take a lot of bottle tops.

Occasionally things get a bit over dramatised. One evening a couple of weeks ago we could hear fireworks going off. The group chat exploded along with the rockets. A sense of incredulity and outrage: “Fireworks? Really?” Followed by rapid response: “I’m on my way!” To do what? Not sure.

The most serious chat threads are alerts with CCTV images of people up to no good. There is many a night when individuals can be tracked around the street, going into gardens, trying car and house doors and peering in through windows. Checking footage can get to be a bit of an obsession and actually sometimes it’s better not to know what is happening outside when you are in bed and asleep.


Like this guy trying our conservatory door.

Anyway back to my unsolved mystery. Remember my twig broom? Well, when I got up this morning it was in the middle of the hazel tree.

Who put the broom in the hazel tree?

So when my husband checks CCTV footage later I am going to look the other way. I don’t want to see that someone has grasped hold of my magical twig broom, messed around with it and then put it in the tree. I don’t want to see what else they have been doing in our garden. Maybe it will turn out that no one has been in the garden which would be truly something for the group chat!!! Either way it’s better not to know.

Twig broom back where it belongs.

What I did today: Gathered Lilacs

it hasn’t been the best summer weather-wise this year here in the north of England but alternate days of rain and sunshine have worked magic in the garden. The result has been a few amazing and unexpected gifts.

I bought a quince tree a couple of years ago. I read that it can take a good few years before any blossom or fruit start to appear but in early Spring my tree was covered in blossom.

Quince blossom in early spring.

Around the same time I was given a cutting from a mulberry bush. The kind person who gave me this said I shouldn’t expect any fruit for the next few years. The cutting didn’t look particularly healthy and it was one of the last bushes to produce any leaves but now, mid summer, is covered in fruit.

The berries are very juicy and have an almost toffee-like flavour. This makes total sense as mulberries are related to figs. Not enough yield yet for jam or wine so using what there is as a topping for Granola.

Mulberries

Earlier in the summer I caught my husband hacking a way at something that had made its way through the ivy and was launching a take-over bid for the top corner of the garden. He fought a gallant but ultimately lost battle and the intruder survived and thrived.

Blackberries

Today I saw that the lilac tree at the bottom of the garden had, unusually, flowered for the second time this year.  Lilac flowers can be used to make a soothing facial toner so, as we are due more rain and the flowers are very delicate and easily damaged in bad weather, I picked the ones I could reach and hung them in the sun for a while so they would fully open.

Lilac flowers opening up in the sunshine

I then filled a jar with the flowers and poured hot water over them. The flowers were left to steep for an hour or so then I strained the toner into a bottle.

Lilac flowers left to steep in hot water.

Once bottled the toner should last a couple of weeks if kept in the fridge. It is a pretty pale pink colour and smells faintly of lilac. It can also be used as a cooling facial spritz if decanted into a spray bottle.

Home-made Lilac toner.

These things , the blossoms, the berries and the flowers appeared as if by chance  and as unlooked for gifts from a garden that, to be honest, is a bit wayward and unruly but full of surprises.